I read “Marrying Mr. Wrong” in the Atlantic, but I still don’t see where the author offered anything of value to readers. Obviously, there are superficial qualities - such as a man’s balding head - that one should happily overlook; and I agree with Betsy it is also important to realize no man (or woman) will ever be able to meet all their spouses needs, because we are all imperfect. But then…and here is where the mental loop begins…how do you decide upon the grey areas…those qualities in a potential spouse that make you wonder if he (or she) might impact your children negatively or might make a stable marriage difficult to achieve (I’m thinking about things such as a bad temper, a cavalier attitude towards their college partying, a workaholic, a person who puts their friends first, he (she) allows bad behavior from his kids from a previous marriage, ect.) It is hard to know where exactly to draw the line between unacceptable and acceptably imperfect. I think that is what many women in their thirties struggle with; and I think often those who struggle the most are women who want to build a family the “right” way. If you have any insight on this Betsy, I’d be interested in hearing it, because I’ve sure never figured it out.