Comments on: Radio Show - On Being a Prude http://www.betsysblog.com/wordpress/2008/04/10/radio-show-on-being-a-prude/ Let’s look at things a little differently.... Thu, 28 Aug 2008 08:45:42 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: e78509dceb68 http://www.betsysblog.com/wordpress/2008/04/10/radio-show-on-being-a-prude/#comment-1367 e78509dceb68 Sat, 10 May 2008 08:33:35 +0000 http://www.betsysblog.com/wordpress/?p=241#comment-1367 <strong>e78509dceb68...</strong> e78509dceb68e96b97d4... e78509dceb68…

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]]> By: Betsy http://www.betsysblog.com/wordpress/2008/04/10/radio-show-on-being-a-prude/#comment-1280 Betsy Fri, 18 Apr 2008 14:00:11 +0000 http://www.betsysblog.com/wordpress/?p=241#comment-1280 Alvin, some great comments - no, women who lived the way the SC girls did would mosts likely not be good candidates for marriage - but isn't that interesting that the writers producers "knew" how to end the show in the only way that would be satisfying? (They didn't all marry by the way, but that's another story) Regarding point #2, I hear you but I don't agree. First, we live in a demeaning, sex-saturated culture we are forced to combat when it comes to our kids whether we want to or not! Second, sexual seduction, within marriage, IS a gift from God. (Read Song of Songs!) I want my kids to know that, and that anything short of that isn't good enough. #3 - I think every child is different. 18 is very young to be sent off into the world, I agree, but the alternatives aren't always perfect. Anyway, thanks so much for writing - Best, Betsy Hart Alvin, some great comments - no, women who lived the way the SC girls did would mosts likely not be good candidates for marriage - but isn’t that interesting that the writers producers “knew” how to end the show in the only way that would be satisfying? (They didn’t all marry by the way, but that’s another story)

Regarding point #2, I hear you but I don’t agree. First, we live in a demeaning, sex-saturated culture we are forced to combat when it comes to our kids whether we want to or not! Second, sexual seduction, within marriage, IS a gift from God. (Read Song of Songs!) I want my kids to know that, and that anything short of that isn’t good enough.

#3 - I think every child is different. 18 is very young to be sent off into the world, I agree, but the alternatives aren’t always perfect.

Anyway, thanks so much for writing - Best, Betsy Hart

]]> By: Alvin http://www.betsysblog.com/wordpress/2008/04/10/radio-show-on-being-a-prude/#comment-1279 Alvin Fri, 18 Apr 2008 12:04:55 +0000 http://www.betsysblog.com/wordpress/?p=241#comment-1279 Betsy, Nice show as usual. Just a few quick comments. 1. You mention how in the show Sex & the City, the 4 women eventually settle down by marrying at the end. Question: Do you really think women who have random sex for many years can actually settle down and be "good" wives. Personally, I would think with all the past hook-ups and boyfriends that these women would not make trusting and committed wives. Just my opinion. And I do wonder about the men that marry these women. 2. About the question whether talking about sex with your kids helps or not. I grew up in a loving family, but my parents never talked about sex nor did they show any intimacy around the kids - they never held hands or kissed around us. As a result - also my dad was an army officer - we never brought home girls or even had girlfriends - we would've felt to embarrased or even ashamed. Eventually my mom introduced me to a very nice girl who happens to be my wife of almost 7 years now. (I agree the chastity rings and all that are silly). 3. Finally, regarding sex and college, how about just living at home and commuting to school. I know you talk about not retreating from public or how you should engage your environment - but I lived in a dorm for a couple of years and then moved back home. Living at home was so much better and healthier overall. And kids (okay young adults) at that age are still easily influenced and can get themselves in a lot of trouble. Betsy,

Nice show as usual. Just a few quick comments.

1. You mention how in the show Sex & the City, the 4 women eventually settle down by marrying at the end. Question: Do you really think women who have random sex for many years can actually settle down and be “good” wives. Personally, I would think with all the past hook-ups and boyfriends that these women would not make trusting and committed wives. Just my opinion. And I do wonder about the men that marry these women.

2. About the question whether talking about sex with your kids helps or not. I grew up in a loving family, but my parents never talked about sex nor did they show any intimacy around the kids - they never held hands or kissed around us. As a result - also my dad was an army officer - we never brought home girls or even had girlfriends - we would’ve felt to embarrased or even ashamed. Eventually my mom introduced me to a very nice girl who happens to be my wife of almost 7 years now. (I agree the chastity rings and all that are silly).

3. Finally, regarding sex and college, how about just living at home and commuting to school. I know you talk about not retreating from public or how you should engage your environment - but I lived in a dorm for a couple of years and then moved back home. Living at home was so much better and healthier overall. And kids (okay young adults) at that age are still easily influenced and can get themselves in a lot of trouble.

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