As Dr. John Rosemond says (paraphrased): “Want your kids to learn to be truly happy and self-sufficient? Put your marriage first. Or, if single, put your adult life first.”

http://www.bradenton.com/living/family/story/1005972.html

Excerpt:

“Any woman who says she is giving more than 33 percent of herself to her kids is, by definition, what I call a 3M mom: a magnificent maternal micromanager. Obviously, you more than qualify. Besides, as I’ve said in recent columns, I don’t think parents should be involved with their children. They should be interested and ready to get involved, but involvement should be the exception, not the rule. A HUSBAND AND WIFE SHOULD BE INVOLVED WITH ONE ANOTHER. And yes, I’m yelling, because all-too-many of today’s parents need to be strapped to chairs and made to listen to a tape loop of the previous sentence blaring over a loudspeaker until they get it………Perhaps it is
past time for you to rediscover the joy and liberation of being a wife first, a mother second.”