Also, in my humble opinion, people who are deep in debt or who don’t take much pride in paying their own bills should not be dating at all. Or, at least, they should be upfront about said faults. You would not believe the number of men and women who accuse their significant others of being “mercenary” because the latter are not eager to pay their big bills for them, with or without any promises from those in debt! (I’m not including married couples, necessarily, but I don’t really think married people should rescue their irresponsible spouses, either.)

Also, one may want to look at http://www.glennsacks.com, if only for the sake of “looking at things a little differently.” (I certainly don’t agree with everything on it.) Sacks is one of the best known men’s rights activists (MRAs), and probably the most polite and fair-minded. According to many of his columns and guest columnists, given the way the law works these days, a man has plenty of reasons not to trust any woman enough to marry her – or if he does, not to have children with her. Example: Last summer’s case of Rosemary Shell vs. Wayne Gibbs. She gave up a high-paying job to move to her fiance’s state, where he jilted her. Here’s what MRA Marc Rudov said about it in his column “Thou Shalt Not Disappoint Her”:
“I debated Lis Wiehl on Fox News Channel’s Your World with Neil Cavuto about a jilted woman who won a $150K settlement from a Georgia jury because her fiance had broken their engagement. He did this because, after paying $30K of her debts, which he was not required to do, he then discovered that her debts are greater than she initially had revealed. In other words, marriage was her ticket out of debt. So, he decided not to marry her. Sounds reasonable, right? Wrong. Engagement is a risk-free trial before making a lifelong commitment, right? Wrong. This man had committed the sin of disappointing a woman. Even though she had no legal basis for bringing this action, the 12-person jury, half male, felt sorry for her. Had the situation been reversed, can you imagine a jury awarding $150K to a jilted man?”

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