Comments on: Spanking our kids less. . . but yelling more! Ouch! http://www.betsysblog.com/wordpress/2009/10/22/spanking-our-kids-less-but-yelling-more-ouch/ Let’s look at things a little differently.... Mon, 23 Jan 2012 21:40:31 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.5 By: lenona http://www.betsysblog.com/wordpress/2009/10/22/spanking-our-kids-less-but-yelling-more-ouch/comment-page-1/#comment-2673 lenona Mon, 02 Nov 2009 21:07:47 +0000 http://www.betsysblog.com/wordpress/?p=849#comment-2673 From a commenter: "Don't yell, Don't spank. So, what do real life parents do when you are running late, the appointment you're running to can't be missed or you'll be cancelled/fined/fired, and your child is standing there challenging you to make them move? I really would like to know." Dr. John Rosemond would say something like: If the kid is small enough to be carried, do it. If the kid is over 3, he/she is old enough to be punished later on and understand why. I.e., strike while the iron is cold. As in: "This doesn't bother me a bit, but by golly, it's going to bother you." And all you have to do to make the memory stick is make the punishment just a bit worse than the crime. Doesn't even have to be a spanking - a cancellation of a playdate, movie or a park outing can work, too. (They really should have supplied some solution like this.) From a commenter:

“Don’t yell, Don’t spank. So, what do real life parents do when you are running late, the appointment you’re running to can’t be missed or you’ll be cancelled/fined/fired, and your child is standing there challenging you to make them move? I really would like to know.”

Dr. John Rosemond would say something like: If the kid is small enough to be carried, do it. If the kid is over 3, he/she is old enough to be punished later on and understand why. I.e., strike while the iron is cold. As in: “This doesn’t bother me a bit, but by golly, it’s going to bother you.”

And all you have to do to make the memory stick is make the punishment just a bit worse than the crime. Doesn’t even have to be a spanking – a cancellation of a playdate, movie or a park outing can work, too.

(They really should have supplied some solution like this.)

]]> By: SteveOkTU http://www.betsysblog.com/wordpress/2009/10/22/spanking-our-kids-less-but-yelling-more-ouch/comment-page-1/#comment-2665 SteveOkTU Fri, 23 Oct 2009 00:47:07 +0000 http://www.betsysblog.com/wordpress/?p=849#comment-2665 Can we stipulate this: people who say they don't spank their children and turn their nose up at that, and then turn around and yell at their children are perhaps the biggest hypocrites in history, period. Do we yell at our neighbors, folks at church, people at work, other people on the street? But then turn around and yell at our children like they are some out of control football coach screaming at his team at halftime for losing the game. Do these people think that the only way to abuse a child is physically? All I ask, and I hope it's not too much to ask, but for those people who want to push their no-spanking agenda down the throats of America, if you yell at your kids on a regular basis don't tell me that I'm abusing my kids for spanking, because if you do you are a pathetic self-rightous hypocrite. Can we stipulate this: people who say they don’t spank their children and turn their nose up at that, and then turn around and yell at their children are perhaps the biggest hypocrites in history, period. Do we yell at our neighbors, folks at church, people at work, other people on the street? But then turn around and yell at our children like they are some out of control football coach screaming at his team at halftime for losing the game. Do these people think that the only way to abuse a child is physically?

All I ask, and I hope it’s not too much to ask, but for those people who want to push their no-spanking agenda down the throats of America, if you yell at your kids on a regular basis don’t tell me that I’m abusing my kids for spanking, because if you do you are a pathetic self-rightous hypocrite.

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